At singles events, women come in groups and are reluctant to talk to men.In online situations, women say they want desperately to meet a nice guy like me, but never answer my response to their profile. They have a lot of dating options, they’re building their careers, and there isn’t a clear urgency to settle down.I thought that since I was an attractive, fit, well-educated, financially and emotionally secure guy that I would have no problem finding a woman in her mid 30s to settle down with and start a family.I have tried a combination of online dating, speed dating, professional singles events, volunteering, happy hours etc. I thought that online dating would be great since you are essentially pre-screening people for dates.Hell, I just gave a TEDx talk about this very thing.Men scramble to approach women like rats chewing on a meaty chicken bone, and then wonder why women are so turned off by them.It should be a required experience for men – just as approaching men and getting rejected dozens of times should be a required experience for women.Ladies, have you ever had a similar experience to this woman? I would have been interested to know, however, if any of the messages he received were from internet bots or scammers.
Welcome to Understanding the Opposite Sex 101, dude.Any advice on how to navigate these new paradigms in the dating world? And to directly address your email, I have to divide my response into two different parts: 1) What You’re Getting Right and 2) What You’re Missing. We’ve addressed this before, from an older man who couldn’t possibly fathom why a younger woman wouldn’t want to be with him. We can complain that the opposite sex is unrealistic and passing up great opportunities – and we’d be right – but it doesn’t change that people want what they want. They, too, have a lot of dating options, are busy building their careers, and don’t have a clear urgency to settle down. Theoretically, this is when want to have time before becoming dads.Thus, their target market remains women, 27-34 – who may not be ready to settle down quite yet.Says the original author: “I would be lying if I said it didn’t get to me.I thought it would be some fun thing, something where I would do it and worse case scenario say “lol I was a guy I trolled you lulz”, etc.